Grateful for Everything

Create and Attitude of Gratitude All Day Long

 

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The secret to happiness and finding the enduring joy we all seek is Thanksgiving-the simple act of continually giving thanks.  To realize wonderful positive outcomes, up to and including seeming miracles, do one thing:  Show gratitude all day long.  Seeing everything in a new light, through a refreshing prism of love and appreciation, imparts a deep inner well of peace, calm and joy, making us feel more alive.

We can feel that way every day, in every aspect of life, awaking each morning excited to create the day ahead and enthusiastic about each moment and then falling asleep at night embracing a profound feeling of gratitude for all the good we know and have.  Happiness is contagious and becomes an upward spiral of joy naturally shared with others.

Start today by launching a daily gratitude journal.  This single action, the simplest and quickest way to get results, will foster a habit geared to change everything forever.  It fills up our love tank, sparks success and benefits everyone.  To embrace better relationships, health, clarity, life and tangible and intangible wealth:

  • Set a daily time for journal writing.
  • Pick a handful of things that prompt gratitude that day.  Perhaps begin with people that support you in some way.  Everything counts, from expressions of beauty to basic conveniences.  Eventually the daily list will grow, generating the joy of gratitude at ever-higher levels.
  • It’s important to write with love and joy, because such feelings create your world.  Even if something’s a work in progress, like encouraging steps in a relationship, focus on what makes you feel good and want more of and you’ll start seeing more evidence of them.
  • Elaborate in detail about a particular thing that earns extra gratitude.  This carries more benefits from intense feelings than creating a list.  When we see how blessed we are with what we already have, it creates more of what we are grateful for, generating and endless cycle of gratitude.
  • Take notice of the surprises and little miracles that occur, and be sure to make note of them to evoke an even stronger level of awe, and gratitude.
Robert Emmons, Ph.D., of the University of California-Davis, a leading authority in researching the science of gratitude and its impact on well-being, instructs his study participants, “Be aware of your feelings and how you ‘relish’ and ‘savor’ this gift in your imagination.  Take the time to be especially aware of the depth of your gratitude.”  In other words, don’t hurry through this exercise like a to-do list.
An all- day-long attitude of gratitude ramps up our awareness of life’s pleasures.  It takes an already good life to a whole new zone of zest.
Article by Mary Lynn Ziemer- a master of Advanced Life Concepts, certified life and business coach, motivational speaker and author, with more than 30 years as an entrepreneur and corporate executive at two Fortune 100 companies.  Connect at LivingAJoyfulLifeNow.com

HOW CAN WE ALL GET ALONG? Resolving Conflict Benefits Mind and Body

 

 

” A major amount of wear-and-tear on the body comes from prolonged unresolved conflict–basically from not letting go, holding grudges and reliving situations over and over in your head,” says Raj Dhasi, a Toronto-based conflict management consultant who specializes in the physiological impacts of conflict.  “But if conflict happens and my mindset is:  ‘I can handle this.  We can work through this,’ that is phenomenally beneficial for the brain and body.”

When we are faced with any conflict–whether it’s an angry boss, disgruntled neighbor, political opponent or untidy teen in the house–our limbic system responds swiftly by igniting a cascade of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol and spiking our heart rate and blood pressure.  Meanwhile, our prefrontal cortex–the part of the brain responsible for thinking things through and putting the brakes on emotional, irrational behaviors–begins to slowly light up.  The fundamental problem is that in the race to mount a response, the limbic system often wins, prompting us to greet conflict impulsively by raising our voice and saying things we later regret before our rational brain has time to step in.

On the flip side, many of us avoid conflict altogether, harboring discontent in such a way that we feel powerless or even threatened.  Making matters worse, our fight-or-flight response never quite goes away, says Gary Harper, author of The Joy of Conflict Resolution: Transforming Victims, Villains and Heroes in the Workplace and at Home.  “More people are stressed out by not dealing with a conflict than with dealing with it,” Harper observes.  “If you deal with it in the moment, it allows you to let it go.”

Pause, Breathe, Consider

Harper advises that one way to deal with conflict on the spot is to pause and give our more rational side a chance to arrive at a solution.  “Before you react, slow down, take a deep breath and listen to your inner dialogue,” he says.  “In that deep breath, you might realize that you need five minutes [to consider a response].”  If you still remain in attack mode, it might not be the best time to respond.

He adds that while no conflict should be avoided altogether, careful consideration might lead us to conclude that some battles aren’t worth fighting.  Ask yourself:  How important is this person to me?  How important is this issue to me?  ” If neither is vital to you, save your energy for a better use.  If the issue is not important, but the relationship is, it’s okay to accommodate or give in sometimes,” he says.

Be Direct and Follow-Up

Some conflicts are worth confronting.  Then, Barbara Pachter, a business communications consultant and author of The Power of Positive Confrontation, offers what she calls the WAC approach for dealing with most cases of work and family conflict.

W:  Ask yourself:  What is really bothering me? ” A lot of times, people don’t do this.  They just say, ‘This person is a jerk,’ rather than specifying the problem.”

A:  Ask them for a solution.  “We often complain, but we don’t find a solution,” she says.  “Determine what is going to solve the problem for you and ask for it.”

C:  Check in.  “Turn it over to the other person and ask for their response.  Inquire: ‘Is this possible?  What do you think?'”

All the while, stay curious about the other person’s perspective, suggests Harper.  “We tend to see ourselves as the innocent victim, or we go into hero mode and tend to see the other person as the villain,” he says.  “Of course, the other person is doing the same thing, and that makes collaboration tough.”  Instead, ask sincere questions–and really listen.

Agree to Disagree

Terrie McCants, coordinator of the conflict resolution program at Kansas State University, notes that in some cases, especially when deeply held values such as politics or faith are involved, resolving conflict isn’t necessarily about reaching an agreement.  “You cannot negotiate people’s values.  Sometimes, these are things that people are willing to lie down and die for,” she says.  “Instead, sometimes you might need to agree to disagree.”

In the end, whether the conflict is a minor disagreement at home, a workplace quarrel or a complicated political dispute, the process of properly working through it can leave both parties feeling stronger and improve their communities.  “Conflict forces you to problem-solve collaboratively and come up with options and elegant solutions,” she explains.  “If handled well, it can add brilliant things to your life.”

After reading this article, I decided to share because I think it has really good points.  Especially the way today’s economy is going, we all some form of stress and frustration and may sometimes say things we don’t really mean.

So, if you have those moments when you are so angry and maybe don’t know why, stop and close your eyes, take a breath and walk somewhere by yourself to slow down and calm your mind before returning to life’s space.

Contents of this article provided by Lisa Shumate, a freelance writer in Boulder, CO.

It’s My Four Year Anniversary

WordPress has just sent a notification to wish A Universal Life a Happy Anniversary!  I can’t believe it has been four years.  Time sure does fly when your having fun, getting inspired and just enjoying life.

Many thanks and gratitude to all my friends, followers and visitors here in the WordPress community.  A big THANK YOU to WordPress for all you do and for your continued generosity.

May you all have a wonderful day filled with peace, love and bliss!

Many Thanks to a Lovely Friend

One Lovely Blog Award.

My deepest and sincere gratitude goes out to Aquileana  for the “One Lovely Blog Award” nomination.  Aquileana has a beautiful blog https://aquileana.wordpress.com/ filled with information about Greek Mythology.  Please take a few minutes to say hello and check it out.

The award rules are as follows:

1.  The nominee shall display the respective logo on his/her blog and link to the blogger that has nominated him/her.

2.  The nominee shall nominate 10 bloggers he/she admires, by linking to their blogs and informing them about the nomination.

So, without any further delay, here are the nominees that shine today:

1.   Stamped with a Heart         2.  iiThinks  3.  Shaktipata  4.  Following My Joy  5.  Paths of the Spirit  6.  Yoga & Joyful Living  7.  Southern Yoga Girl 

8.  Russel Ray Photos  9.  Ow Foto Grafik  10.  The Lambent Life

Thank you Aquileana for your kindness and for the Lovely Blog nomination.

Peace, love, blessings to you all!  Tammy

Thankful for November

November has to be one of my favorite months of the year.  It’s a time where family, friends, neighbors and even those who you don’t know come together and enjoy each other’s company over Thanksgiving dinner.  One of the things I enjoy and am thankful for is to volunteer at the Mustard Seed Thanksgiving Feast that they have every year for the families and neighbors of the community who have no where to go or don’t have any family.

A reminder that what you have is truly a blessing.  If you happen to live in or close to Fort Pierce, Florida and you would like to come volunteer, you can just show up on Thanksgiving Day at 8:00 a.m or anytime before 11:00 a.m. and help out, we would love to have you join us.   772-465-6021  The Thanksgiving Feast will be located at the corner of 9th Street and Orange Ave., Fort Pierce, Florida (it will be in the grassy area right next to where the old St. Anastasia School used to be).  There is also a location for our Port St. Lucie friends, which is The Dream Center, located in the Kings Plaza, 7646 S. U.S. Highway 1, Port St. Lucie, Florida. 772-777-5425.

If you are not able to volunteer on that day, you can also make donations.  You can call the numbers listed above for more information.

Hope to see you there and maybe make some new friends!

Peace, love, blessings,

Tammy

Thankful for Ultimate Gifts

Good morning friends, neighbors, followers!  Happy Sunday!  I had the chance to see a movie called “The Ultimate Gift” which was not only an inspiration, but came with a message.  Throughout the movie was a list of “ultimate gifts” that when you read them, you may not see some of them as such, but if you really think about it, they can be.

1.  The Gift of Work–  See your job as more than just a way to pay your bills.  Whatever work you are doing, be thankful and know that you are helping someone or a group of someone’s in a bigger way than you could possibly imagine.

2.  The Gift of Money–  This is a reminder of the famous saying:  “It is better to give than to receive”  Now, I’m not talking about giving the gift of money to receive it back, that’s not the reason to give at all.   We all have love and compassion which resides in our heart and we have the opportunity to share our blessings with someone who is not so fortunate.  Maybe it’s a certain someone who is close to you that is behind on their rent or just needs a little extra money to pay a bill.  Whatever the circumstance may be, sharing is caring.  When you perform random acts of kindness, you will see how the universe opens up to you.

3.  The Gift of Friends-  “A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.” ~Elbert Hubbard

A true friend is hard to find.

That’s why when you come across one; you should hold onto them and cherish the joy that friendship brings. Friends help you be honest with yourself and they keep you from doing things that you might regret.

They are confidants, counselors and coaches. Friends helps you be you without apology.

4.  The Gift of Learning-  Learn to learn.  There is so much information available on this planet and there is never too much you can learn.  Maybe take some time to learn a new language or learn about different cultures.  The possibilities of the mind are endless.

5.  The Gift of Problems-  You don’t begin to live until you’ve lost everything.  Try not to see your problems as a failure or that you have been defeated.  Instead look at them as an experience and what may be coming to you as a connection to something that will be beneficial for you and your life journey.

6.  The Gift of Family-  Spending time with family is a blessing.  But maybe for some of us, being around our family is not our cup of tea.  Yes, it’s possible that some members of our family can be a little difficult to be around or that we just don’t see eye to eye on some things.  However much we may dislike our family at times, they are still our FAMILY and that in itself is a precious gift.  Take time to be with family, because life is short and that little effort that you make means more than you could ever realize.

7.  The Gift of Laughter-  See life as joyous.  Laughter is the best medicine, no matter who you are.  Did you know that it takes more muscles to frown than smile?  So, we should be smiling and laughing a lot!  Besides that, laughing is just plain fun!  So, go ahead….live, love and laugh, laugh, laugh!!!!

8.  The Gift of Dreams-  We are all free to dream.  What was your dream when you were a child?  Did you want to be a prima ballerina, a fireman, the president?  What about as an adult?  What is your dream?  Have you made that dream/dreams reality?  What is your life-long dream?

9.  The Gift of Giving-  Being generous is one of the greatest gifts.  Giving is an act of kindness.  It doesn’t have to necessarily be in the form of money, it could be clothes, food, your time.  Giving someone a HUG!!!!

10.  The Gift of Gratitude-  Learn to be thankful for what you have.  You might not have that shiny new car or that big house you always wanted or millions of dollars in the bank.  Don’t focus on the things you don’t have, be grateful for those things that you do.  Little things mean a lot.

11.  The Gift of A Day-  What would you do with your last day on Earth?  Cherish every day and take those extra moments to look around and enjoy the outdoors, a friend, your husband/wife, your mom/dad, your kids.

12.  The Gift of Love-  Love unconditionally.  We are on this planet to love each other, no matter what color we are, what religion, male, female.  We are all one!  Love as much as you can because that is the biggest gift of all!

 

 

It’s A Fantastic Friday My Friends

 

Here we are…..Friday!  The infamous day that starts the weekend for most of us hard working, dedicated humans.  Why is it that everyone gets especially excited when Friday comes rolling around?  Could it be that we can’t wait to dive in and enjoy the plans we made for the weekend?  Maybe it’s that special someone you just can’t wait to see and embrace each other’s unique and wonderful qualities.  Perhaps you get to see your children and share what they like to do, and it just so happens that you become a child yourself.

Yes, we can all say that Friday has been a kind of celebration day.  But why not look at every day as something to celebrate?  Every day we wake up is a precious gift.  The sun is shining, maybe the birds are serenading you a sweet melody.  Squirrels may be playing in the trees.  It’s the simple things that we sometimes forget to stop and take a moment to enjoy.

Whatever you plan to do this weekend, make it awesome!  Have fun, laugh out loud, get silly, love a lot and smile!!!!!  May this day and everyday bring you peace, love and happiness!

 

 

Love is…….