The Happiness Project….Completed or a work in progress?


Things people do to become happier.  What works might surprise you…..

Philosophers, psychologists and self-help gurus all have advice on how we can be happier–but what really works?  Journalist Gretchen Rubin decided to find out.  She devoted a year to “test-driving” happiness strategies and gathered feedback from visitors to her popular Web site.  She called her research “The Happiness Project.”

Different happiness strategies work for different people, but a few stand out…

*Seek novelty and challenge even if you vale consistency and comfort.  I didn’t expect exploring new challenges to make me happier–familiarity and comfort are very important to me–but I was wrong.  Trying new things is one of the most effective paths to happiness that I have encountered.

The human brain is stimulated by surprise and discovery.  Successfully coping with the unfamiliar can offer a high level of happiness.  Repeating what we’ve done many times before can be comfortable, but comfortable is not the same as happy.

Example:  Launching and updating a daily blog have brought me great happiness, though initially I feared that I lacked the necessary technical skills.

Challenge yourself to do something that sounds interesting–even if it’s different from anything you’ve done before or it requires skills that you’re not sure you have.  Take a class…try a new hobby…learn a language…or visit a different town or museum every weekend.

Try doing whatever you enjoyed doing at age 10.  The person we are in adulthood has more in common with the person we were at age 10 than we realize.  Renowned psychiatrist Carl Jung started playing with building blocks as an adult to recapture the enthusiasm he had felt in his youth.  If fishing made us happy when we were 10, odds are it will make us happy today…if playing the drums made us happy then, it probably still will.

Example:  I was given a blank book when I was a child and really enjoyed filling it with clippings, notes, cartoons, anything that interested me.  So as part of my happiness project, I bought myself a scrapbook and started clipping items from magazines and newspapers to paste into it.  As an adult this still brought me happiness.

Read memoirs of death and suffering.  Paradoxically, sad books can increase our happiness.  These books put our own problems in perspective and remind us how fortunate we are.

Examples:  I became happier with my life when I read Gene O’Kelly’s Chasing Daylight, the former CEO’s memoir about learning that he had three months to live… Stan Mack’s Janet & Me, about the death of the author’s partner…and Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking, about the death of her husband.

It’s not that I’m happy that other people have been unhappy.  It’s just a way of appreciating everything that I do have.

Declutter your home.  A few minutes of cleaning can substantially improve one’s mood by giving us the sense that we have accomplished something positive.  Cleaning also creates an impression of order that can contribute to serenity.  And it helps remove a source of stress–conspicuous clutter is a visual reminder of a responsibility that we have neglected.

Try a brief burst of cleaning the next time you feel overwhelmed or anxious even if you don’t think it will work for you.  Even people who are not particularly fastidious discover that this boosts their mood.

Examples:  For me, cleaning out a drawer…organizing my medicine cabinet…or just making my bed in the morning provides a real boost to my happiness.

Be appreciative of people’s good traits and not critical of their bad ones…be thankful for what they do for you, and stop blaming them for what they don’t.

Example:  I stopped getting angry at my husband for forgetting to withdraw cash before we went out.  Instead, I started taking it upon myself to make sure that we had the necessary cash.  I also made a point to be more appreciative of all the things that my husband does do, such as dealing with the car.

Enjoy today even if there’s still work to do.  Many of us assume it’s normal to live with limited happiness until some major milestone is reached–we earn that big promotion, have a family, or retire.  We sell ourselves, I’ll be happy when I meet my goals.

Example:  As a writer, I imagined how happy I would be when the book I was working on was finally published.

Unfortunately, people who pin their happiness on a distant goal usually spend most or all of their lives less happy than they could be.  Often they set ever more distant goals as the original targets approach…or they discover that the goal that they thought would bring happiness actually brings added stress.  Some never reach their goals at all.

I’m much happier now that I remind myself to be happy about making gradual progress toward my goals, even if the goals themselves remain far in the distance.

I found this article  interesting and informative.  Maybe you do some of the happy things listed here or you have your own way to happiness.

If you have ideas for happiness or something you would like to share, I would love to hear from you!

May you have a great day!

Tammy

Article by Gretchen Rubin

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17 thoughts on “The Happiness Project….Completed or a work in progress?

  1. Try doing whatever you enjoyed doing at age 10 – This works. I have picked up arts and craftsy stuff again and even built and painted a few model airplanes. And returning to drawing has opened up a whole new world in a cartoon blog.

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  2. Whether you call it serendipity, kismet or purely coincidence, I truly believe in this. I was just introduced to this book this morning and then read your wonderful post. I definitely think there is a message here for me. Thank you so much!

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  3. The occurences of the past 8 weeks has forever changed my inner being. The company that I formed has taken on an entirely different meaning and the inner peace I have gained is with me now almost consistantly!
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  4. Great post, Tammy! Very true, indeed. The cleaning clutter part particularly resonates & I am planning to share that mindset with my husband who doesn’t understand why I get so unglued with a messy, cluttered house.
    Happy Spring!

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  5. I think that learning to be less resistant to what is actually happening right now, instead of focusing solely on those distant goals is really important. Being in the present helps us see all the things we already have to feel grateful for, and all the achievements we have already made, and I believe that with greater happiness in the now, we are more likely to take the right steps to achieve the future goals as well. A great post, thank you!

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    • Thanks for the post “Open Life”! You are really “opening me up to life”, just kidding…But really though..I’m was so happy to read this!. shared it, and -my friend from San Francisco reposted “you” with a cool picture of an aligator in water. The picture reminded me of How much happiness I feel in Nature, Thanks again. great

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